Mother furious after school confines son

Troubled eight-year-old's 'time-out' room was a storage closet

OLIVER MOORE

From Friday's Globe and Mail

March 6, 2009 at 4:04 AM EST

HALIFAX Dawn Shippien doesn't deny that her boy can be disruptive in his Grade 2 class.

She admits Dylan Gale acts out by making strange noises and can react violently if he feels trapped. The eight-year-old has obsessive-compulsive disorder and oppositional defiant disorder and is waiting for an assessment for autism.

At the suggestion of his school, Ms. Shippien agreed that her son could occasionally be put in a time-out room. But the mother in Windsor, about 65 kilometres northwest of Halifax, didn't know what school officials had in mind.

"It was a storage room, a closet. They basically converted this room to be a small area [where] Dylan could be put," she said yesterday, estimating the space at one square metre.

"When you open the door, you see a small area built out of gym mats. He had been confined in this little tiny area, alone."

Ms. Shippien said that her mother, on a visit to Windsor Elementary School last Thursday, heard Dylan "screaming and hollering" in the room. The boy hasn't been to school since, and his mother is hoping to meet with board officials today to explore better ways of dealing with his behaviour.

Margo Tait, superintendent of schools for the Annapolis Valley Regional School Board, acknowledged that the situation is not acceptable, telling the Halifax Chronicle-Herald that the school's room will be changed to meet board guidelines for time-out rooms. She did not return a call yesterday seeking clarification on what those guidelines are.

School boards have wide discretion when handling such situations. Canada has no overarching standards related to time-outs for students, education and parenting experts say, although several added that this school's approach is unusual.

"It's the first time I've heard of this kind of incident," said Bernie Froese-Germain, a researcher with the Canadian Teachers' Federation.

"Obviously, it's appalling that this kind of thing could go on."

An expert in child protection said that adults imposing time-outs have to be careful to use them to instill discipline instead of inflicting punishment.

"The school needs to have a look around at what other options they have before constructing a chamber like this," said Rod Ensom, former co-ordinator of the Child and Youth Protection Program at the Children's Hospital of Eastern Ontario, now a consultant with Ensom and Associates.

"What you're describing strikes me as crossing the line into punishment. Surely there is someplace to which this child can be removed where he will not be so tightly confined."

The boy's mother made a similar point.

"I'm not asking them to allow my son to run wild," Ms. Shippien said. "But my son perceives this as punishment, that he's bad. He doesn't view it as a safe place where he can go to calm down. It only further agitates him."

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Ottawa Mens Centre.com, from Ottawa, Canada) wrote: Hello? Where is the dad? Notice no mention of the father? "Oppositional defiant"? If a storage room was used, it may have been necessary for the protection of all.

An eight year old in a violent angry mood could well place the other children at risk. It may sound terrible but lets give teachers some benefit of the doubt, would all the teachers involved all make a poor judgment decision and unnecessarily lock a kid in a storage closet? Just how large or small was this "storage closet", change the word closet for room and it may not have been the same connotation.

Now, children copy their parents, and as we don't hear about the father, we can assume that the father is not in the picture, children without fathers grow up predisposed to having dysfunctional personalities and in particular, will copy the mannerisms, including "oppositional definace" of the adult that they are with, read mother.

Canada is riddled with dysfunctional children growing up with dysfunctional mothers who got rid of the father and do their best to sabotage the child's relationship with their father.

The only solution is a legal presumption of equal parenting after separation. That of course would cause "oppositional defiance" by the extreme feminists hell bent on duel mother no daddy families....  www.OttawaMensCentre.com 

 

 

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Time out? Padded Room? Just what does this mother expect a school to do with an extremely violent 8 year old?
When children have severe behavioural problems, it generally results from dysfunctional parenting, including "sabotaging" parenting.

If you want your child to behave this way, just give them anything they want and then be violent with them when they make you mad. A guaranteed way to create "oppositional defiance".

Another reason why a father and a mother are important in a child's life and why Canada needs a legal presumption of equal parenting after separation. www.OttawaMensCentre.com

Don't blame the teachers for this one. Is it the teacher's responsibility that the school does not have a "time out room" to deal with children of parents who breed dysfunctional children? It begs the question why these parents decided to have children when they knew or ought to have known that their own dysfunctional personalities would simply create some mirror images or children who copy what they learn at home.
The "time out room" was probably a safe place to keep the child temporarily while the "mother" was called and told to take him home.

It is outragious that schools be expected to sort out dysfunctional personalities that are bred in the home by parents who behind closed doors show children examples that preprogram them for a dysfunctional future. www.OttawaMensCentre.com