A reader writes: When I married my husband 10 years ago, I stressed to him that I was marrying him, not his business. Since that time he has struggled to keep it going. I purposely stayed out of the business, but lent him money to help it through a rough patch. I received one payment once, way back when. I feel resentful that he has never treated me with respect on this matter, or answered my questions about what we will live on in old age. When I bring it up, he changes the subject or gets defensive. I do work, and had the foresight to draw up a prenuptial agreement. Selling the business is out of the question. But it's hard for me to watch it drain his energy and our savings. There are three of us in this marriage. Should I stay or should I go?
Stick it out
You knew he had a business before you married him, so it's only fair to ride it out. Sounds like he's determined to make it work, and if it finally does turn around, selling at retirement time would be part of your retirement plan. Running a business is not like having a job - it's a 24/7.