Sgt. Vince Adams stood with square jaw high as his commander pinned a polished medal to his chest during Remembrance Day ceremonies in Kandahar
Soldiers stand at attention during Remembrance Day ceremonies in Kandahar, Afghanistan on Wednesday, Nov. 11, 2009. The Canadian Press
Kandahar, Afghanistan — Globe and Mail Update
Published on Wednesday, Nov. 11, 2009
Kandahar, Afghanistan — Globe and Mail Update Published on Wednesday, Nov. 11, 2009 10:18AM EST Last updated on Wednesday, Nov. 11, 2009 10:19AM EST
As the first recipient of the new Sacrifice Medal in Kandahar, it was a bittersweet moment for Sgt. Adams. Ten feet away, the marble-etched faces of the four friends he lost that day peered out from the memorial that stands at the heart of the Canadian compound here.
“The medal makes me think of them,” he said. “Maybe it sounds cliche or whatever, but it's for them that I wear this. It's not really for anyone else.”
First handed out three days ago, the Sacrifice Medal is the new Canadian equivalent to the American Purple Heart, awarded to those injured in combat.
Despite his injuries and the appeals of his family not to deploy, Sgt. Adams returned to Afghanistan. “I want to win,” he said. “I don't know what that looks like, but I don't want to walk away for nothing.”
It was a rare celebration of life on a day dedicated to the 133 Canadian soldiers who have died in Afghanistan.
Beneath a desert sun and the buzz of a surveillance drone, Defence Minister Peter MacKay, Industry Minister Tony Clement and the families of seven dead soldiers watched as Canadian and Afghan soldiers stood shoulder-to-shoulder through a bagpipe's lament and a speech from Jonathan Vance, the commander of Canadian forces in Afghanistan.
In a bizarre turn, the ceremony was capped off with a scene re-enactment from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine , in which two military padres read the lines of spaceship commanders.
The seven families had flown to Kandahar as part of the military's Next of Kin program that acquaints relatives with the land where their loved ones fell. Canada is the only country to provide such a service, and nearly all families of the 133 dead have signed up for a visit, according to Col. Jean-Luc Milot, who heads the program.
During a private ceremony, Afghanistan army commander Abdul Bahshir personally thanked the families and offered them medals of appreciation.
The most heart-rending moments of the day came during a service for the families. Even the normally stock Brig-Gen. Vance struggled for composure as he addressed them. “May our warm embrace comfort you now, and in years to come,” Brig-Gen. Vance told the families, pausing momentarily to catch his emotions. “You are family.”
Each family then laid a wreath at the memorial and placed letters at plaques bearing the faces of late soldiers.
“It's been a very emotional and healing experience,” said Nicole Starker, wife of Michael Starker, a medic who died during a gun battle with the Taliban. “I wanted to get to know this side of my husband, to visit the place that took him.”
The wife of Richard Steve Leary, who died in a shoot-out with the insurgents, said while the visit helped salve her loss, she has no problem evoking her husband. “I don't need Remembrance Day to remember,” said Rachel Leary. “You wake up every morning and it's your first thought.”
Commentary by the Ottawa Mens Centre
Lest we forget the Father's of Canada, many of whom are serving in
Father's in Canada have no legal rights. Canadian Children have NO legal right to a relationship with their Fathers as they do with their mothers.
Canada has a Male Sharia Law, its a Male Gender Apartheid, it means father's have NO legal rights in family court.
Take Ottawa for example. Here at 161 Elgin Street Ottawa, on the Fifth Floor you have some of the greatest insults to justice that make Canada an insult to justice and freedom.
Canada, the land of the free? Hardly, any father who seeks to have the court enforce his children's rights is likely to have the most draconian treatment, if he does not "get the hint" and give up.
Some of our man hating judiciary, issue life time bans preventing fathers from even residing in the same city as their children, not because they are Karla Homolka or Paul Bonardo but because they asked a court for justice.
Ontario Family Courts actually very rarely make a decision, take Ottawa, many thousands of applications in contested issues are filed. Out of all the parties asking for a "trial" only around 3% actually get a trial, and those litigants have very expensive well connected lawyers who are on a first name basis with the administrative judges, they can also pick up the phone and call their old law partner any time and get what they want.
It's basically only those cases where both parties are equally well connected that actually get to trial.
Lest we forget
The rest? Judges intimidate them right out of the court room, "this is the decision that will be made so do you want to be hung shot or poisoned?
Any father who continues is likely to be on the receiving end of some corrupt vile decisions that most Canadians cannot imagine can happen in Canada.
More Canadian and American Father's kill themselves because of draconian family court orders than there are soldiers who get killed in Afghanistan.